|Sleeping Through the Night, Revised Edition: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep
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If your child is keeping you up at night, you're not alone. About 25 percent of all young children have trouble either falling asleep or staying asleep through the night. This comprehensive, easy-to-read book covers a range of sleep-related topics, from the basics (What is sleep?) to tips on bedtime routines and common sleep problems and disorders in children. Child psychologist and BabyCenter sleep expert Jodi Mindell provides a proven method that will teach your child to fall asleep and stay asleep. She even tackles sleeplessness in adults. Thoughtful and reassuring, this book will help weary parents cope with the challenges and stresses often associated with bedtime.
- Not for us
I didn't like this book for two reasons: First, the premise didn't work for us. My child put himself to sleep at night just fine, and then proceeded to get up every two hours during the night. Second, I felt the book was not well written. As a sleep deprived mom, I have to make the most of the time I have available to read. This book is so disorganized it took quite a while to figure out what Ms. Mindell's technique was. Most of the book didn't apply to us, but I felt I had to read the whole thing anyway just to figure out the sleep training. It is not clearly written or well organized....more info
- Children need structure!
I was pleasantly surprised to see how much energy the author went to explain how important it is to first SET UP the child to fall asleep. He needs a bedtime routine so that he can understand what is happening, realize it's bed time, and begin to calm himself even while he is with you. I have not yet implemented the "put down awake" method yet, but that's because I'm still working on making a good consistent routine, and establishing positive sleep associations. I also have to note that I've begun to put my daughter down a little more awake than usual, and it now only takes 1-2 minutes to put her down.
I have to respond to the reviews that have said that Mindell says children think vomiting is "fun". Nowhere in her book does she say so. Is it possible for children to make themselves vomit in order to get attention? Yes. I am an early intevention specialist, and I have seen this happen. Obviously, it is disturbing and not a behavior that you want to continue. Behavioral vomiting usually starts with gagging. Kids make themselves gag and see all the attention it gets. Once their gag reflex gets heightened due to all the forced gagging, it's not that difficult to vomit. Her advice about how to respond to it is RIGHT ON. If you give them too much attention about behavioral vomiting, it WILL continue. It may be a disturbing notion for a mother who has never heard of this, but Mindell is wise to give advice for it.
- Baby torture in a pretty package
This book is a nightmare and is exactly the sort that the esteemed American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has come out so vehemently against in recent years. It's another in a long series of books -- starting with Richard Feber (who has recently completely changed his tune about letting babies cry-it-out, by the way) and including the infamous Gary Ezzo (the fundamentalist Christian preacher-turned-sleep expert whose best-selling book, "Babywise", has been denounced by the AAP for causing lasting attachment issues, serious breastfeeding problems, and even failure to thrive).
Do your baby's emotional and physical well-being (not to mention your mother-child bond) a favor and don't buy this book. Stick with the best-selling "No Cry Sleep Solution" instead -- as its name implies, it's loaded with great tips and techniques on how to get a baby to sleep without tourturing him or yourself. Not only did this book work at solving all three of my kids' various and significant sleep issues, but not a tear was shed and I don't have to worry about having permanently scarred my children's sense of trust in me and the world, and having done irreparable damage to our mother-child bond. Instead, all three are very happy and well-adjusted, and are now well-rested, terrific sleepers to boot....more info
- Sleep Advice Really Works!
This is the BEST book about babies & sleep that's out there. It's solutions really work. Mindell is a doctor who not only has practiced, but works at a research institution on infant sleep. Her suggestions are backed up by research. Her cry it out/self-soothe approach really works. I was very hesitant at first - like all mothers I hate to hear my baby cry. But guess what? I used her method, and the first night he cried 10 minutes. The second night 2 minutes and the third night 1 minute. Altogether 13 minutes of crying and now he is a wonderful sleeper. He sleeps 11 hours through the night and is happy to go to bed! I know that there are a lot of mothers who don't believe in the cry it out/self-soothe method because they say that not responding to babies is unatural. However, my baby cried a lot more than that before he was sleep-trained when he woke up crying hour after hour in the night because he didn't know how to put himself back to sleep. I feel that through the advice in this book, I've now taught him an important skill of knowing how to go to sleep on his own. It's just as important of a skill as being able to walk on his own or being able to sip from a cup on his own. This is a well-organized and incredibly useful book. ...more info
- Well-researched and compassionate
The negative reviews of this book are founded in the readers' errors. Dr. Mindell explains clearly why babies need to be able to put themselves to sleep, and gives the reader choices about how to do it. Nowhere in this book does it say that you have to make your baby cry or that you have to abandon him. You don't. She says that you can stay with your baby and pat him and verbally soothe him in his crib.
Further, she never says that vomiting is fun for kids, and her suggestion about hanging signs is in the paragraph about keeping a sense of humor. It really bothers me to see reviews that are flat-out lies.
Whether or not to let your child cry to sleep is one of the most controversial parenting subjects. I was completely against it until my son, at 7 months, had still not slept through the night in his crib. My husband and I felt completely broken by lack of sleep- it was absolutely debilitating to my family.
I bought the book and took the plunge, and the conclusion I've come to is this: letting my son cry as he learns a very important skill-- the ablility to go to sleep on his own-- is better than all the crying he does added up over a night due simply to night-waking and not being able to go back to sleep. At least this way, he will have a tool at the end of all the strife, instead of just being upset over lack of sleep.
We have done the method for 2 nights now. The first night he cried for 10 minutes. The second, which should be the worst, 37 minutes. We hope tonight will be better. Already he is waking less in the night and has already put himself back to sleep twice.
I hope this helps others who are contemplating buying the book. ...more info
- A good book...taking an unfair beating from some reviewers
I've read the book thoroughly, and I have to say that the people who have made negative comments about it have taken what the author says out of context, making her sound terribly uncompassionate. Totally not so.
The book clearly says, that things like vomitting are a very rare extreme, but she mentions them just so that parents know what might happen in the extreme case. The point of mentioning it was so that there will be no element of surprise to discourage parents.
In nearly all cases, the first two nights are the hardest, where baby may cry for fifteen to forty-five minutes. As another reviewer noted, they don't suggest just abandoning the child, but going in to assure the child as often as you like. Letting baby know you are close by, patting her back, giving her quality play time before bedtime. The book says by the end of a weeks time baby should be sleeping through the night. A few days of crying seems like a small price to pay to be sleeping better by the end of the week. Heck and if in a week it's not working there is still time to get your money back on the book and try something else. Not much to loose in my view.
The mention of locking the door was not a suggestion to do it, but more of a warning against the dangers. They suggested a baby gate as a better alternative for keeping the child from coming out of their room every five minutes.
I don't feel it was bad for the author to give permission to the parents to think of their own sleep needs, and relaxation techniques to help them cope with a cranky sleep deprived child....more info
- A word of caution
A friend gave me this book to read as my 6-month old daughter does not nap regularly during the day, is not keen on going to bed early AND wakes up 4-5 times per night. I am not saying that the method does not work since I could not make myself even try it, but the friend has a baby of the same age who has been subjected to the sleep training with "great success". Before you try this method, consider the following:
My daughter was never much interested in day-time naps, but during the first 3 months she slept through the night without any training. On the other hand, she was quite fussy during the day and she had regular episodes of crying.
This completely changed when I went back to work, which coincided with her starting teething and learning new motoric skills. Now she is not a good sleeper, but she is an active and inquisitive child who learned to sit and crawl early. But she rarely cries during the day and it is almost never fussy crying.
My friend's daughter was a much more quiet and 'easy' baby during the first three months. Since she has been 'trained to sleep', she has become quite fussy and unsettled and she, in general, cries more than my daughter. One day they both stayed with my babysitter and it took much less time for my daugther to fall asleep, plus she slept longer than my friend's baby. My babysitter told me that my friend had to spend 45 minutes trying to get her child to fall sleep (following the Mindell advice: not picking her up, only standing by her, talking to her, giving her a lovey). This is 3 months AFTER she has allegedly learned to self-soothe and established a firm sleeping schedule.
I can not convince myself that this approach is right. I always attend to my daughter when she cries. I never let her cry it out, not even for a minute. I pick her up to soothe her or nurse her every time she wakes up crying. I read several books (including this one) written by so-called experts who say that crying does not psychologically damage children. Maybe it does not, but how do they know? The only ones who could confirm this are the children and they can not tell us. But they can show us how they feel and if they cry, it means that something is wrong. If they stop when you pick them up or nurse them, then you should be proud of being able to help them.
By ignoring your child's cries, you do not remove the underlying cause of the crying, you condition yourself to shut it out and pretend that it will go away. Yes, it is hard not being able to get an uninterrupted stretch of sleep at night, but I really wonder what kind of parent can continue to sleep or read or do whatever while their child is crying alone in the dark. ...more info
- Good book
My son is almost two years old, and he has been sleeping through the night - 11 hours a night since I used the methods in this book eight months ago. There were a few nights of small episodes of crying. No more than 10 minutes and first night. On the third night and ever since he goes to bed willingly and happily. The first time I tried this method, I didn't do it correctly and it made things worse during the day, he felt abandoned and clingy. This is the likely response you will get if you don't put alot of emphasis on the bedtime routine part of this method. Now, he only wakes up in the night and cries if he has lost his pacifier. Also the method needs to be restarted after your child has a cold or is teething, since these things interfer with sleeping.
To the nay sayers of this book, teaching your child to feel safe and secure without a parent a breath away is a great gift to the child! Our children have to rely on us, and we gradually teach them to rely on themselves. Some seem to think parenting is about teaching children to rely on the parents....more info
- Amazed that it worked for us!
Our son has been a challenge since the day he was born. Even in the hospital, he would not sleep by himself and had to be held almost constantly. Since I was nursing, our son slept with us until he was 6 1/2 mos old. If he woke during the night, I nursed him back to sleep and he woke 4-6 times each night. We followed the basic principles of the book, but modified our approach slightly. Our first step was to move our son out of our bed. I established a bedtime routine, like the book suggests, but I nursed/rocked our son to sleep each night for the first 2 weeks, and I would get up and nurse/rock him each time he woke up. The next step was to begin putting our son to bed awake. The first night we followed our bedtime routine, and I layed him down very drowsy, but awake. He cried for 20 minutes and fell asleep. I was shocked! Only 20 minutes! He woke up a few times that night, and each time I nursed/rocked him back to sleep. The next night he cried 10 minutes and fell asleep. He woke up a few times that night, but I did not go into his room right away. A couple of times he cried for about 5 minutes, and then fell back to sleep. The 3rd night he cried less than a minute, woke up once, and put himself back to sleep. So, now he's sleeping about 10-12 hours per night. Sometimes waking, but going back to sleep and barely even protesting when I leave the room. The sleep training worked for us. I would definitely recommend the book. A few reviews have been negative claiming that the sleep training is cruel, but the author educates the reader about sleep problems, gives the basic principles of sleep training, and then tells the reader to do what they feel is best for their child's specific needs, even noting that some parents modify the training and are still successful....more info
- GENTLE approach? More like the most INHUMANE approach out there.
I laughed out loud reading this book last night because I thought the author was surely joking. She said that babies are capable of vomiting intentionally for attention, and that if your baby vomits after an evening of crying in his crib, then you should clean it up as quickly as possible without touching your baby and then leave the room to let your baby continue crying. That's a joke, right? Come on, people!!
If you believe this is an acceptable parenting style, then you are being brainwashed or you are very, very selfish.
And what about the author's advice for parents that can't stand the sound of their baby's cry to drown it out with music, the T.V., or the vacuum? She says herself that a baby's cry is nature's way of making sure babies are taking care of. So, I guess that would make ignoring the cry neglect, wouldn't it?
This is just one of the several ways Mindell suggests will reduce your stress level while your baby cries. What about your baby's stress? What do you think her psyche is going through while he screams and vomits with no response? Who cares, right? They'll be fine in the morning. It's YOU who needs the sleep!
Yes, this method will probably work. Buy my question is, why? Maybe it's because your baby learns that after several nights of not being responded to, it's just not worth it. Nobody is listening, so what's the point? Perhaps that's why it takes a few nights and the crying becomes less and less...like he is shutting down more and more. After all, if a baby is smart enough to intentionally vomit for attention, he should be smart enough to learn that his needs are worthless.
We are trying the No Cry Sleep Solution, which is not a quick fix but is definitely a gentle approach to sleep training. It is also written clearly and gives you a step-by-step plan for success. This book, on the contrary, is poorly written and doesn't offer clear instruction - except, of course, to let your baby cry until he vomits.
I would rather continue the sleepless nights than put my child through something so inhumane....more info
- it's either all or nothing - try to apply the method for yourself
It's funny: when you read the reviews on this book it's either 5 stars or nothing. I think the main point is whether this book applies to you.
I had a lot of problems with my first son who did not sleep through night for 2 years. A lot of the comments from the book where true: he definitely had negative sleep associations and we had to work hard to train him to sleep. During my second pregnancy, I was on bed rest and had enough time to read books on the subject. I liked the ideas from this book and saw many things applicable to the problems I had with my first child.
What I liked in the book - it was not patronizing and gave enough of freedom to decide how you'd like to work it out. If you read the book carefully, you'll find that crying baby is not necessary!!! Dr. Mindell mentions that some of her patients could not let the baby cry and found other ways to cope with this (by hugging, petting, etc...). I'm against letting babies cry, and the method still worked for us. My second son sleeps through the night from the age of 6 weeks (that's when she suggests to start with the method). I worked on the establishing the routine for ~two weeks from 4 weeks age. Then, it took us only 2 days to become good night sleepers. When my son made a noise, I came to him, hugged him, gave a pacifier, and left the room. If he made another noise in a minute, I still came to him (did not leave him cry), and continued... Two days!!! The third day he went to sleep without problems.
It's hard to tell whether it's a different child (hei, each of them have their own personality, and may be this kid is much more calm than my first one), but I think you can at least try. If you do - good luck and enjoy your nights!!!!
- A Lifesaver
This is the best baby book I have read. It is written without being either patronizing or dogmatic (something I can't say about many baby books out there). She provides some real insight about sleep and good advice about handling your baby.
We had major sleep problems with our baby (both going to sleep and staying asleep). Once we read the book and got the basic insight that sleep is a learned behavior it was all downhill from there. I won't lie, the first couple of nights were tough but our baby goes to sleep easily and sleeps throught the night. After two months of three hours of getting our baby to sleep and multiple, shrieking wakings every night we were shot. Three weeks into this method and we were getting 8-9 hours of uninterrupted sleep each night.
Most importantly, the book has compassion for both parents and their children. Too many baby books fail to recognize that the relationship works both ways, this one does. ...more info
- I am finally getting more than 5 hours of sleep!!!!
This book is a savior! My daughter was 5 months and not sleeping in her crib and was still getting up in the middle of the night for a bottle. I read this book and it took only one week to get her into her crib and sleeping through the night! The first couple of nights were really hard (she cried for 45 minutes straight! AH-AH), but if you follow the plan described in the book and stick to it, it will work. The book was easy to read and understand, and has information about all kinds of sleep and behavior problems. ...more info
- Sleep book
This book was recommended by our baby's pediatrician. Its really a "cry it out" book. So it depends on if that's a method you're willing to inflict on your child. We're looking for a new pediatrician....more info
- Useful book
It was very hard for me to make the decision to let my 9 month old cry to sleep, and I had tried pretty much all the kinder gentler ways before turning to Jodi Mindell. I chose Mindell over other "OK to cry" books because her text was measured, charted a pattern of sleep training that allowed me to do it step by step which I felt I could stomach, and did not add to a new mother's already elevated level of stress by suggesting that children who do not sleep well will likely have ADHD or be in danger of being seriously abused by their parents (there are books like that out there and it seems they sell). Mindell was on the whole respectful and constructive. Her key insight is that if you sleep train regularly (this means let baby cry) at bedtime you can comfort him during night awakenings, because as baby gradually learns to put himself to sleep at bedtime, he gets better at sleeping longer & longer stretches. I followed her plan conscientously but only at bedtime, I always comforted my son during night awakenings. Though the whole thing took longer than a week or two to succeed, I started to see progress in 4 days. It's been a month since I Mindellized my son, and most nights now he sleeps pretty well and wakes up calm and rested. So I'm a lot happier. ...more info
- "negative sleep assocations"
She says it's a bad idea to let your baby fall asleep while being rocked or listening to music? But, don't adults do some variation of these things? I fall asleep with the radio on all night and I don't have a problem.
The women contradicts herself all through the book. In one sentence for example she says "not all babies need to be rocked back to sleep over and over" but then proceeds to say to "Never rock your baby to sleep because then they will need it to get back to sleep". What's wrong with a child having a parent next to them to fall asleep? I think it's great. As adults we sleep next to a spouse. So, why do children need to be shut away in a a room alone with nooone there next to them? My sisters 6 children were all rocked and or nursed to sleep as babies and they all turned out just fine. They all sleep fine now that they are older. None of them have any sleep problems.
To state that ALL children will end up with sleep problems is wrong. And I have never seen a child who "enjoys" vomiting and thinks it's "Fun"!! Where does she get this stuff?
- This book changed my life for the better
I am a pediatrician and had read many sleep guides in order to help guide my patients related to sleep issues for their children. It wasn't until I suffered many sleepless nights with my first son that I buckled down and focused on sleep habits as a priority. Dr. Mindell's book is a sensitive, practical, well researched book and approach. (I vehemently disagree with the reviewer who states that this goes against what the AAP recommends. As a MEMBER of the AAP- this book is EXACTLY what the AAP believes in! Please educate yourself before making blanket statements!) My children are now much better sleepers! I now recommend this book exclusively to my families, and have gotten rave reviews. If you are strong enough to follow this advice, you will be well rewarded....more info
- This method worked so well for us
This book was easy to read and had a clear method of how to teach your child to fall asleep on his/her own. We started implementing some of these things when our son was five weeks old and at seven months he is still the best sleeper. We set him in his crib and he goes right to sleep.
The main focus of this book is that babies need to learn how to fall asleep on their own. Babies wake frequently during the night and if they are used to being rocked to sleep, or another form of external stimulation, they will need it to get back to sleep each time.
The book helps set up a bedtime routine and has a schedule for when you put your baby down to sleep. If your baby starts crying, let him/her cry for five minutes and then go talk to him/her. Do not pick your baby up, just talk and calm your baby down. I understand that this is the opposite of the Babywise method, which says you should pick your baby up but not talk or make eye contact. The schedule gives you different time intervals for each day on how to repeat this process. It seems to advocate letting your child scream until he vomits without picking him up, which seems very difficult for a parent to do. Fortunately, we never got anywhere near that far. There was just one time in the first two weeks that we had to talk to our son a third time. I do not think I would have been able to listen to him crying much more than that and especially not to where he vomits.
This book addresses various sleep problems for different ages, both physical and psychological. It also has a chart which illustrates how many hours per day children of various ages sleep. It is broken down into nighttime and daytime sleep and shows how many naps the daytime sleep typically covers. I go back and reference this chart each month as my baby gets older so I know what to expect from his sleep patterns.
I received personal recommendations on this book as well as Babywise and Baby Whisper. I went with Dr. Mindell's book because I liked her credentials better than those of the other authors. Her method worked really well for us and I'm glad I did it....more info
- Entertaining and useful
My kids' pediatrician recommended this book, and it's pretty good. I liked the discussion of general discipline, though my twins are too young to know if the methods will work. The principles behind sleep training were very helpful, and the I enjoyed all the case histories.
There were a few ideas that I don't think work well. First, the whole idea of putting 6-12 week old babies down awake but very drowsy, and then little by little putting them down less drowsy was impossible for my kids. If they weren't sound asleep when I put them down, they'd just start screaming. Then they'd be awake, exhausted, and super-cranky and take even longer to put to sleep. So that whole idea was hopeless.
Also, I think the author is excessively militant various subjects. Real life is just not that simple. I can't always tell when the right time to put the kids down to sleep is, or whether or not they're hungry (particularly if they're over-tired), so it's just hard to follow the script precisely. My babies are on the young side for sleep training, and I don't think it's necessary to let them scream their heads off for a long time. I do sometimes go in and pick up my son for a minute to calm him down, or change his diaper and offer him a little more food. I know that the author says this is the wrong thing to do, but it seems to be working for us.
Still, the basic principles are useful. She made me aware of the problem of putting the babies to sleep when they're overtired (a mistake we often inadvertently make, which is why we have to disobey other edicts in the book).
- this book helped us a lot!
I have read 5 books on sleep in an attempt to get my toddler and infant to sleep. I was really committed to finding a peaceful, loving solution for helping our babies sleep and this book really helped. My sensitive, intense son slept with us for 15 months and thanks to this book, we worked with him very gradually and gently to help him sleep by himself and through the night. We did end up having to let our baby cry to get herself to sleep but only after we were convinced that she was not able to be soothed other ways and really needed (for her own sake, not only ours) to sleep by herself. This book was a tremendous resource for us and my family is grateful and rested!...more info
- Helpful guide for sleepless parents
I read the Baby Whisperer, The No-Cry Sleep Solution, and The Sleep Lady book, before I got to this one. The Baby Whisperer advocated a schedule my baby (and me!) were just never going to be able to adhere to. The No-Cry Sleep Solution was good but gave SO many ideas that I couldn't figure out what to try when. (When you are extremely tired, choices are difficult!) The Sleep Lady's method was clear, but somehow I couldn't get it to work. I decided not to read Weisbluth and Ferber because I felt I couldn't handle the "cry it out" method. So anyway!
Sleeping Through the Night is based on research, not one person's philosophy, which greatly appealed to me. It sums up the ways that most babies and toddlers sleep best; and makes recommendations about how you can adapt them to your situation. It's more about what YOU can handle, not about what you MUST do. I felt it was easy to understand and easy to take steps to solve my baby's issues. Now I feel lucky that my baby's sleep problems were solved so easily. At 8 months, she sleeps from 7pm to 7am and that is the greatest!!...more info
- Great book and ideas
My daughter was 13 months, still sleeping in our bed and woke up every night 3 or 4 times a night. I purchased this book and then was watching Super Nanny. I use the method from this book of putting my daughter in her crib and staying in the room and not saying a word to her until she felt safe and fell asleep. Katharine has been sleeping through the night for 3 months, and if she wakes up, she falls back to sleep. She has learned to fall asleep on her own and now has a scheduled bedtime. This book help me and my family out a lot. I recommend it. ...more info
- Jodi Mindell, where are you when I need you???
I loved reading this book. Mindell's approach seemed so sensible! I loved the idea that you only had to let your baby cry ONE time per night, at bedtime (as opposed to every time he woke all night). One time a night didn't seem too awful. And she promised that babies would cry 45 minutes the first night, 1 hour the second and 20 minutes the third.
Well, it's night TEN, and my baby is still crying for an HOUR every night. I have followed her "basic bedtime method" TO THE LETTER, I am totally consistent every night, and I am just about to give up. She has no website, no place where I can go to ask questions or try to get some advice. I'm just adrift out at sea with nothing but the book to refer back to.
I will say again that I love the idea of this book, but it hasn't worked at all for me....more info
- What a turning point!
I was really skeptical about this method at first since I knew I just couldn't stomach the Ferber method (basically abandon the baby in the crib, let him cry himself to sleep) & it seemed way too harsh for me so this was an ok compromise I agreed to try.
Basically the theory seemed sound: A baby should learn to fall asleep on his own and not need rocking or eating to fall asleep. Everyone wakes up on their own in the middle of the night and when the baby does this, you want him to put himself back to sleep instead of screaming.
Quick background: We had a preemie born 2 months early and for the last 6 months we've been getting up 3-4 times a night to feed him. This was necessary at first but now that he is 17lbs, 25 inches long & has caught up physically, I suspected he really didn't need to eat every 2-3 hours. (The hope was to get him to sleep maybe 5-6 hours by using this book.) I have not slept more than 2 consective hours in 6 months due to this, because even when we would get 3 or so hours of him sleeping, I could never go right back to sleep that fast and by the time I did, he was screaming again. He is also still colicky during the day, meaning anytime he is awake and isn't eating he is screaming his head off. Also, this whole time he needed to be in the baby bjorn and me walking to fall asleep or be in the car or he would fall asleep while eating. He never just went to sleep on his own in his bed, we let him fall asleep wherever he could and then we sneak him into bed after he fell asleep.
Basically I was hoping to get 5-6 consecutive hours of sleep for him from this book, that was my goal. 6 hours was being very optimistic.
So... night # 1 we established a routine: Read a book, gave him a little bear to hold and put him in bed. He screamed and screamed and screamed non-stop while I bawled outside the bedroom door. We started with a 30 sec. interval and went gradually up to 7 min intervals & he fell asleep after 35 min, the longest 35 min of my life. He then got up for all of his usual intervals during the night. At this point I bitterly complained that this wasn't working, it was a lot of pain for nothing etc. but my husband convinced me to give it a week.
Night #2 the book said would probably be worse than night #1 and to expect him to cry longer. The first thing we noticed was that he didn't cry immediately after we left the room he waited about 2 min. And he was asleep after 25 min! AND HE SLEPT FOR 7 CONSECUTIVE HOURS!Of course, I thought he was dead of SIDS the whole night and was up every hour listening for breathing & finally slept in his room starting around 4AM.
Night #3: He started crying 5 min after we left the room & then only cried for a total of 2 min before he was asleep and then slept for 9 hours straight!!!! 9 HOURS! O.M.G. (I was still conditioned to wake up every 2-3 hours, so I got no sleep still, but the potential is there- there is hope!) I just cannot believe that this is the same child who woke us up screaming to be fed (or so I thought) several times a night just 3 days ago!!! Why oh why didn't I start this earlier, I could have has so much more sleep and a baby who was getting enough sleep too!
This worked SO well for us, even though the 1st night was pure hell, I feel like it was worth it & I've given my child the skills to fall asleep on his own - this is a BIG deal especially if we have another child because I wouldn't be able to cope with 2 like this, both needing rocking, eating etc. to fall asleep. An added benefit is that he is much less crabby (colicky) during the day and also doesn't immediately melt down if he loses sight of me for even 2 seconds anymore. (Don't even ask how many times I had to bring the bouncy seat into the bathroom with me in sheer desperation!)
Everyone is MUCH happier in our house, the baby isn't nearly as cranky during the day and neither am I- I can't recommend this book strongly enough, even though the first few nights are definitely difficult.
- Great Book
After trying soooo many sleep books, this was the one we found most helpful. Yes, its a cry it out book, but it worked! Within three-four nights she was putting herself to sleep! It did not make me feel like a bad parent like some of the other books did (ie. Baby Whisperer). I find the book a great reference now that she is older when we run into a problem - teething, ear infections, etc.
Get this book!...more info
- THIS IS THE ONLY BOOK ON SLEEP YOU NEED!!!!
As a first-time mom (and psychologist), I brought and read five books on sleep until getting this one- the only one that actually helped!!! It is the most comprehensive, clear, and practical book if its kind and parents across the country should bow down to Dr. Mindell for her ability to guide you along the path to getting your infant (and thus, yourself) to sleep through the night!! ...more info
- sleep at night in 3 days
This is a new parents' book must have! In 3 nights, our 7 week old son was sleeping through the night. And, we can put him into the crib at bedtime whether he's up or not: he knows how to put himself to sleep. Get this book!...more info
- Worked like a charm
This book really works! We started putting our baby on a schedule at 5 1/2 months old following Dr. Mindell's advice and the first night he cried for 5 minutes. The 2nd night 7 minutes, and after that he would go right to sleep. He actually seems to look forward to going to sleep and sleeps more than 10 hours at night now. We liked this book because it was flexible and let you tailor how you wanted to respond to the baby and wasn't militant about it. We'll so glad we found this book!...more info
- This book changed my life- no kidding!!!
Dr. Mindell's book gives parents whose kid are not sleeping through the night hope! Ideally, you should read this BEFORE your child is born so that you won't make the mistakes I did. However, if you are like us and end up with a 15 mo old who wakes 4-5 times a night and won't fall asleep on his own, this book will give you a plan that you can follow and feel good about. The best part it, it works QUICKLY. For us, it took 3 nights with no more than 45 minutes of crying at a time. It could have been so much worse. The best part was, we all started being normal again once we were not so sleep deprived. It made motherhood much more FUN for me- which is the way it should be!
Dr. Mindell also tackles other issues like napping, moving from a crib to a bed, and early waking. This book is for any mom expecting child #1 OR for any parent struggling with any problem associated with sleep. I HIGHLY recommend this book!
It was an easy read too. Even in my EXTREMELY sleep deprived state, I was able to read it in a day or two and implement the plan shortly thereafter!...more info
- Gentle CIO, for an anti-CIO mom
Our 15 month old has never slept well, ever. He was colicky and had severe reflux (still does). I have read just about every possible sleep book out there, from Dr. Sears "Baby Sleep Book" to Dr. Weissbluth "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" to "The No Cry Sleep Solution". None of the non-CIO methods were working on our willful child, and my life (read marriage, health, work, etc) were beginning to show the effects.
After reading up on Jodi Mindell's qualifications on another website, I realized that this might work. Her book is not the all-or-nothing CIO book. She does it in such slow gentle ways, that you don't feel forced into cold-turkey anxiety. We're on night 5 of the first "phase", and things are going amazingly well. There is some crying involved, and it is really hard, but coming from the perspective of nursing and co-sleeping, I think this is the best book out there if the non-CIO methods don't work for you. She only has you tackle one section at a time (i.e. bedtime, nights and naps), rather than all at once. She also flat out tells you to check on your child as often as you'd like (not in 5, 10, 15 minute blocks), that if you can only wait 30 seconds - that's okay. I loved that. It's a no-pressure approach for the weak hearted.
Dr. Weissbluth's book was way too cold-turkey for me, and I never could have done that. By night 4, my son had gone to sleep after 3 minutes of crying and 10 minutes of sitting in his crib. The first two nights took 2 and 3 hours respectively, but the actually crying involved during those nights was surprisingly little (just took the little guy forever to realize that he needed to SIT DOWN and not hover on the edge of the railing).
Good luck on your sleep problems. There are more of us out there than you realize that have been there too!...more info
- The only sleep book you need
Why is this the only sleep book you need? Because it is concise, to-the-point, has specific practical tips, and is BASED ON RESEARCH.
The author is active in both clinical practice and research through a Sleep Disorders Center at a Children's Hospital. This is not her personal opinion or general observations, this is based on research and experience specifically with kids having sleep problems.
We used this book to sleep train our twins at 8 months of age, after rocking them to sleep before that. It worked in 3 days. We have gone back to this book again and again as their naps and schedules have changed over time. The book is always helpful....more info
- Sound advice from a true sleep specialist!
My son didn't start sleeping through the night until he was 19 months old. That was when we started seeing Dr. Mindell. She and her book were wonderful for our family. She is compassionate and offers no-nonsense advice for helping your entire family get to sleep!...more info
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